Thanks for making me aware of this article. While I enjoy and resonate with some aspects, if we're encouraging men towards biblical manhood, shouldn't we be encouraging them to pursue God and not just "work on themselves"? The pursuit of God is not to the exclusion of any other things you mentioned for bettering one's self but it's more biblical to be surrendered to God allowing Him to mold our character by the means of prayer, worship and adoration of God, Bible study, community and living out what the Bible says. Exercising and taking care of self is good and should be done as a supplement to the pursuit of God. If we're just trying to better ourselves to make it easier for God to send the right person, we very easily run into self idolatry. But if God is our pursuit, all the things that better one's self will come (provided one is seeking in truth).
Anyway. Just my thoughts since they were asked for. Thanks!
Does God make a promise that a man or woman will be given a spouse? I feel this article, whilst valuable, doesn't leave room for the possibility that God may not have marriage in His plan for one's life. Do you believe we should be discerning "if" God would want us all to marry, given Paul also says that to be single like him would be better? (or is at least equally with the potential to be lived out in a Godly manner?)
You wrote: “Stop hiding behind lies and realize that if you want a woman worth something, you need to become a man worth something too.”
As if the sole reason men (or anyone) struggle to find a spouse is because they aren’t worth having one. That view only helps you cope with the reality you don’t actually know how to find a wife and blinds you to the realities much happens outside the neat little categories you’ve assigned to the world around you. You assume it happens naturally if one is as perfect as you, and therefore men must be without them because they aren’t good enough. Self righteous and foolish.
Okay Annie. Thanks for your take on the article. It’s wrong, aggressive, and in many ways nonsensical, but I still appreciate you taking the time to comment.
My comment is certainly aggressive, but it isn’t nonsensical. Your cope won’t work on objective observers who see you running from a sensible challenge to your article.
Appreciate you reading and your input, but this is a blog specifically for men, so I will talk to men. Women can find other writers who can better explain their issues and give advice. Nowhere do I absolve women of responsibility, and talking about how men can improve is what I can offer, because that’s what I am too.
Thanks for making me aware of this article. While I enjoy and resonate with some aspects, if we're encouraging men towards biblical manhood, shouldn't we be encouraging them to pursue God and not just "work on themselves"? The pursuit of God is not to the exclusion of any other things you mentioned for bettering one's self but it's more biblical to be surrendered to God allowing Him to mold our character by the means of prayer, worship and adoration of God, Bible study, community and living out what the Bible says. Exercising and taking care of self is good and should be done as a supplement to the pursuit of God. If we're just trying to better ourselves to make it easier for God to send the right person, we very easily run into self idolatry. But if God is our pursuit, all the things that better one's self will come (provided one is seeking in truth).
Anyway. Just my thoughts since they were asked for. Thanks!
Completely agree, and I encourage them to do so in nearly every article that I write!
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Does God make a promise that a man or woman will be given a spouse? I feel this article, whilst valuable, doesn't leave room for the possibility that God may not have marriage in His plan for one's life. Do you believe we should be discerning "if" God would want us all to marry, given Paul also says that to be single like him would be better? (or is at least equally with the potential to be lived out in a Godly manner?)
Yeah, maybe I could've clarified that there's absolutely room for vocations other than marriage.
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Glad you liked the article brother! God bless
Reducing men to two categories, as if average Christian men aren’t also struggling… this post is so self righteous and foolish.
What are you talking about?
Your article. Why play dumb?
You wrote: “Stop hiding behind lies and realize that if you want a woman worth something, you need to become a man worth something too.”
As if the sole reason men (or anyone) struggle to find a spouse is because they aren’t worth having one. That view only helps you cope with the reality you don’t actually know how to find a wife and blinds you to the realities much happens outside the neat little categories you’ve assigned to the world around you. You assume it happens naturally if one is as perfect as you, and therefore men must be without them because they aren’t good enough. Self righteous and foolish.
Okay Annie. Thanks for your take on the article. It’s wrong, aggressive, and in many ways nonsensical, but I still appreciate you taking the time to comment.
My comment is certainly aggressive, but it isn’t nonsensical. Your cope won’t work on objective observers who see you running from a sensible challenge to your article.
Whatever you say!
Thank you <3
Thanks for reading brother, glad you liked the article and understood the point I was trying to make! God bless you.
With a sword and a rosary
Appreciate you reading and your input, but this is a blog specifically for men, so I will talk to men. Women can find other writers who can better explain their issues and give advice. Nowhere do I absolve women of responsibility, and talking about how men can improve is what I can offer, because that’s what I am too.