The Importance of Male-Only Groups

You cannot develop your masculinity surrounded by women.

In our progressive day and age, “inclusion” and “equality” are all that matters for most people. They claim that every single ratio should be proportionally distributed between whichever arbitrary groups are considered at any particular moment. A perfectly split pie of sexual orientation, gender and race in every profession or social group is the ultimate goal for them. And don't you dare exclude someone from a particular space: that's the worst crime imaginable.

Remember when we had exclusively male groups where men could be men and grow and learn from one another? Not anymore! Now the boy scouts accept women, exclusively male groups are “discriminatory”, even bathrooms are not gender-exclusive, and there are fewer and fewer opportunities for men to develop their masculine virtues within a group of equals, causing men —and women, for that matter— to slowly fade into an androgynous mass of unrecognizable and lost beings.

Exclusive Spaces Exist For a Reason

The elimination of male and female groups starts with a simple, yet extremely wrong premise: men and women are equal in every aspect imaginable, and every historical difference between the sexes is a result of social conditioning and the oppression of women at the hands of men and "The Patriarchy". Sounds familiar, doesn't it? Even universities, once clusters of independent thought and intellectual effort, are throwing common sense and actual science out of the window, replacing them with false ideas based on whatever pseudoscience dominates the current narrative.

These evidently false claims have started to poison and degenerate once extremely important, valuable and exclusive spaces, practices and groups. When people are interchangeable, every group that doesn't allow anyone and everyone to join it is discriminatory and bigoted. I won't even point out the hypocrisy that springs to mind when reading the previous statement: apparently this supposed fight for equality allows everyone to have their own segregated group as long as they're part of some so-called "minority". You know what I'm talking about, so I won't elaborate on that.

The important thing is that selective groups serve a purpose, and they don't exist as an instrument of an oppressive hierarchy. Because men and women are not, and never will be, equal —thank God—, the dynamic within any group changes drastically when it is exclusively composed of men, exclusively composed of women or composed by a mixture of both genders.

Think about how different any social situation is when you're alone with your male friends versus when females are also present. You talk about different stuff, you behave differently, and you even feel different things. This is because both men and women bring different things to the metaphorical social table. Your brothers will offer value in a drastically different way than any female friend or relative will. No matter how much society tries to make men and women replaceable and interchangeable, they never will be.

Groups Of Men

Groups and spaces of exclusive male participation serve to push men to be better men —if you are choosing the correct company. They push men to be stronger, more resilient and less emotional. Young boys tease each other, push each other, fight each other and compete constantly with each other. This feeds their masculine nature, and forces them to mature as men.

This helps them understand that sometimes you have to stand up for yourself and fight back. This helps them understand that sometimes it's not wise to show your emotions. Male to male dynamics within a group of men provide some of the most valuable lessons that young boys could ever learn, and they are lessons that they will not learn from their mothers, sisters, or female friends. When women infiltrate these groups, the group dynamic changes instantly. Because men are attracted to women, that means that, in the presence of women, a significant portion of a man's attention will be naturally directed towards the women present, especially if they're attractive. If they are not attractive, the dynamic will change nonetheless, because a woman is not a man, and men will behave differently when one is present.

Other Groups Have Value Too

Now this doesn't mean that you should exclude women from your life altogether. It means that you should dedicate time exclusively to your male friends, exclusively to your wife, girlfriend, and other important female figures in your life, and sometimes inclusively to both.

All of these groups are valuable in their own right, but the reason I’m such an advocate for the creation of male groups where men can sharpen each other physically, intellectually, and spiritually, is that the world has shifted towards total inclusion and done away with exclusive spaces, which means that it’s precisely these groups that young men are desperately in need of. There are simply not many places where boys and men can develop their masculinity away from the influences of women, and they are becoming effeminate, overly emotional, and conflicted internally as a consequence.

How To Fix This

Don't be afraid to exclude women from some things in your life. It is not evil, as the world would have you believe. I, for example, go to the gym either alone or with male friends. For me, that's a space to grow as a man, and I would rather go alone or with a male friend who’s on the same journey. Same goes for JiuJitsu. I train with my male friends. It’s sad to see how as soon as women come to our JiuJitsu dojo, all of the men start acting like simps and focusing their attention on the women instead of on actually training. This happens in all groups in which women are included.

I also run a men’s group for Catholic men in my home country, and we meet on a weekly basis, without any females. We’ve actively had to reject women that have wanted to join, and it’s pretty funny to notice that they are not at all used to being told that there are groups where they are not welcome. Same thing has happened for my online community for Christian men interested in business and entrepreneurship (which you can join for free here btw).

But we need to get accustomed to having separate groups for men and women. This is not discriminatory, it’s necessary and right.

Lifting, JiuJitsu, and my men’s groups are the places I personally go to to develop as a man. Every man needs those spaces. I recommend that you start creating groups or rituals with your male friends, and ensure that those activities that you engage in are exclusively masculine. Some cool things to do with your brothers include fighting, lifting, hiking, performing any sport, doing any extreme activity, or having periodic meetings where you sharpen your intellectual skills by discussing philosophy, literature, history or politics.

I am sure of one thing: if we hadn't eliminated almost all exclusively male spaces from existence, we wouldn't be seeing the overwhelming crises of loneliness, depression and lack of purpose that plague young men today.

Men need other men to sharpen each other, and find a purpose in growth and struggle.

For the sake of the world, we have to start rebuilding those spaces where men can work on and grow into their masculine nature.

Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.
— Proverbs 27:17

God bless you,

Simple Man

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