I appreciate the clarity and courage in what you’ve written here. In my own work with men over the years, I’ve witnessed so much of what you’re naming—this subtle but relentless campaign that leaves men confused, compartmentalized, and unsure of how to live with strength and integrity.
What I’ve seen is that the shame runs so deep that many men don’t even realize the battle they’re in. They adapt by wearing masks—one for home, another for work, another for church—without ever getting to live out of a whole and rooted identity. Underneath those masks is often a man who feels deeply alone, starved for the kind of brotherhood and sharpening that male fellowship is meant to provide.
I’ve also seen that when men dare to live into their God-given character, they often pay a steep price for it. They are misunderstood, shamed, or even rejected. That cost is tragic and painful, yet in the long run, I’ve found it to be freeing—because it strips away the illusion that approval comes from the world, and it anchors men more deeply in who they are before God.
Your words ring true: masculinity is not toxic, but the enemy has twisted language and isolated men to make them believe it is. I’ve sat with men who’ve carried the weight of those lies for decades. What brings hope is when they begin to rediscover who they are in God, step into authentic community, and find the courage to live without apology as men who are strong, tender, and grounded in truth.
Thank you for speaking into this with boldness. We need more voices calling men back to their God-given identity.
Well spoken brother. I think one of the greatest problems is precisely that so many men are unaware for the ongoing battle for their souls. Thanks for reading, appreciate the kind words and encouragement. God bless you
One thing that may be missing here in the description of this attack is how often it also works to isolate men of character from others. I feel that whether or not this occurs to the extent it appears, that this is exactly the battle in which I feel I have fought almost entirely in isolation and often in vain for 3/4 of a century, and I have all of the appropriate scars to prove it.
Yeah you’re absolutely right, the isolation is a terrible consequence of this. I know so many men who have all the right intentions to fight back but are so lost and lonely that they don’t even know how to start or who they should get together with to talk about all this
Good article thanks. Since I was a child I always thought it weird how some women wanted to get inside men's groups while I never heard any men wanting the reverse.
Maybe the very weird, and entirely wrong, matter of (very messed up) men wanting to join women's groups/sports in order to dominate them there is a strange kind of payback?
I also believed as a kid that the whole unisex clothing thing was demonic. Satan hates boundaries as he loves bringing disorder and chaos to God's creation. All part of the plan to help soften cultural views about homosexuality and the rest of the destructive nonsense. But, except for my father, virtually all the Christian adults I mentioned this to thought me ridiculous. Seems most people really can't see how changes made now mean huge changes in society 10, 20, 30 yrs later.
Glad you liked the article and thank you for reading Andrew!
You are absolutely right, those seemingly harmless changes allow for bigger, terrible change slater on, which is why it's so important to be radical with calling evil evil and good good. God bless brother, thanks again for reading.
Great post! The "male-only" group struck a chord with me as I have experienced how absolutely necessary this is for a man. Five years ago, I joined a nationwide group called F3, and it fundamentally changed my life. Check it out if you are interested: https://f3nation.com/
I’ve heard of F3 before, I believe someone mentioned it in another post, it’s great to see such initiatives. It’s absolutely incredible how deeply we need to develop solid male friendships. We literally cannot truly grow as men without them. I’ll be sure to check it out brother, thank you. God bless you and thanks for reading!
Unfortunately I once criticized the patriarchy, but I was meaning this attitude, by perhaps hurt men. I am grateful for my own dad, who may have been hurt by this thinking.
I think women are also hurt by some of this kind of thinking.
Worship helps us forgive.
Forgiveness, and forgiving, help one overcome negative thinking. We can move forward in healthier, Christlike understanding when we are free to think, pray, understand.
Excellent!!! I am a retired Clinical Social Worker. My career was working in a psychology practice. I appreciate you championing a dialogue about what is happening to boys/men.
I truly appreciate the kind words Milton, and glad to hear you agree with the article given your experience in psychology. God bless you and thank you for reading!
May God grant me the strength to keep writing about this very necessary subject
I appreciate the clarity and courage in what you’ve written here. In my own work with men over the years, I’ve witnessed so much of what you’re naming—this subtle but relentless campaign that leaves men confused, compartmentalized, and unsure of how to live with strength and integrity.
What I’ve seen is that the shame runs so deep that many men don’t even realize the battle they’re in. They adapt by wearing masks—one for home, another for work, another for church—without ever getting to live out of a whole and rooted identity. Underneath those masks is often a man who feels deeply alone, starved for the kind of brotherhood and sharpening that male fellowship is meant to provide.
I’ve also seen that when men dare to live into their God-given character, they often pay a steep price for it. They are misunderstood, shamed, or even rejected. That cost is tragic and painful, yet in the long run, I’ve found it to be freeing—because it strips away the illusion that approval comes from the world, and it anchors men more deeply in who they are before God.
Your words ring true: masculinity is not toxic, but the enemy has twisted language and isolated men to make them believe it is. I’ve sat with men who’ve carried the weight of those lies for decades. What brings hope is when they begin to rediscover who they are in God, step into authentic community, and find the courage to live without apology as men who are strong, tender, and grounded in truth.
Thank you for speaking into this with boldness. We need more voices calling men back to their God-given identity.
Well spoken brother. I think one of the greatest problems is precisely that so many men are unaware for the ongoing battle for their souls. Thanks for reading, appreciate the kind words and encouragement. God bless you
One thing that may be missing here in the description of this attack is how often it also works to isolate men of character from others. I feel that whether or not this occurs to the extent it appears, that this is exactly the battle in which I feel I have fought almost entirely in isolation and often in vain for 3/4 of a century, and I have all of the appropriate scars to prove it.
Yeah you’re absolutely right, the isolation is a terrible consequence of this. I know so many men who have all the right intentions to fight back but are so lost and lonely that they don’t even know how to start or who they should get together with to talk about all this
Good article thanks. Since I was a child I always thought it weird how some women wanted to get inside men's groups while I never heard any men wanting the reverse.
Maybe the very weird, and entirely wrong, matter of (very messed up) men wanting to join women's groups/sports in order to dominate them there is a strange kind of payback?
I also believed as a kid that the whole unisex clothing thing was demonic. Satan hates boundaries as he loves bringing disorder and chaos to God's creation. All part of the plan to help soften cultural views about homosexuality and the rest of the destructive nonsense. But, except for my father, virtually all the Christian adults I mentioned this to thought me ridiculous. Seems most people really can't see how changes made now mean huge changes in society 10, 20, 30 yrs later.
Glad you liked the article and thank you for reading Andrew!
You are absolutely right, those seemingly harmless changes allow for bigger, terrible change slater on, which is why it's so important to be radical with calling evil evil and good good. God bless brother, thanks again for reading.
Great post! The "male-only" group struck a chord with me as I have experienced how absolutely necessary this is for a man. Five years ago, I joined a nationwide group called F3, and it fundamentally changed my life. Check it out if you are interested: https://f3nation.com/
I’ve heard of F3 before, I believe someone mentioned it in another post, it’s great to see such initiatives. It’s absolutely incredible how deeply we need to develop solid male friendships. We literally cannot truly grow as men without them. I’ll be sure to check it out brother, thank you. God bless you and thanks for reading!
Unfortunately I once criticized the patriarchy, but I was meaning this attitude, by perhaps hurt men. I am grateful for my own dad, who may have been hurt by this thinking.
I think women are also hurt by some of this kind of thinking.
Worship helps us forgive.
Forgiveness, and forgiving, help one overcome negative thinking. We can move forward in healthier, Christlike understanding when we are free to think, pray, understand.
Thanks for reading Deborah, appreciate the support 🙏🏼
Great piece of writing - completely accurate in terms of the war on the West
Thank you for reading brother 💪🏻 Yeah, it’s an all-out war. Glad to see so many men waking up and choosing to live boldly. The pendulum is swinging!
Excellent!!! I am a retired Clinical Social Worker. My career was working in a psychology practice. I appreciate you championing a dialogue about what is happening to boys/men.
I truly appreciate the kind words Milton, and glad to hear you agree with the article given your experience in psychology. God bless you and thank you for reading!
May God grant me the strength to keep writing about this very necessary subject
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